KML - I don't think I thanked you for visiting my thread and telling me about the AD's my ex is on and how long she needs to be on them. She still wants to come off them sooner though - she is taking Zoloft, 50 mg, and started in late July or early Aug. She is thinking of using a pill splitter and cutting dose in half without telling Dr. Any Ideas, especially since the Hollidays are comming up and that is normally a time that people in depression get further in depression. What should I tell her?
ODGA - some people can do fine on a smaller dose (my H, for instance, only takes 10 mg. of prozac - half the usual starting dose - and does well with it). The question of course is: does she feel apathetic because of the meds or because of the depression?
Also - has she shown any signs of bipolar disorder (manic depression) in the past? People with bipolar disorder usually like the feeling of being a little manic and dislike drugs that control that (although that is usually more an issue with lithium than with ADs.)
If she does try cutting down her AD dose, can you get her to take fish oil capsules and exercise regularly? These may help with the depression and offset the decreased dosage.
Thanks for your imput - as far as I know she has had no bipolar disorder in the past.
"The question of course is "does she feel apathetic because of the meds or because of the depression?" - That is a good question. She told me it is because of the meds and that they also are causing a loss of Sexual desire. Until my problem, (very low testosterone level - I am now on Androgel [sp] and it is working fine, but now she is the one with low desire. - Ironic, right?) anyway, with my levels really low, my drive went into super low gear and when it did start to work I had the fear that it would not be enough to satisfy her and then that fear just was the self fulfilling prophecy. Well that, and her going through the change of life, (she is 46), with the hot flashes and all, got her into the MLC stage which led to the WAW and dropping the bomb. (just a quick run down) This is what kinda led to her depression. She also said that the meds are giving her a "So What" or a Who Cares" attitude about things and she does not like that. Being Self employed she needs to be able to make good decisions and she fears that the so what attitude may contriubte to a bad decision.
So fish oil capsules and exercise it is then - I will tell her. Thanks ( It is interesting that a couple of weeks ago I had her over to the apartment and fixed her a nice steak dinner complete with candles and background music and all - she loved it. We are talking about another dinner but I am going to cook some baked fish that I cooked for her about a year ago. We can use the baked fish as a supplement to the fish oil caps though.)
Hi all - heading out of town for a couple of days - another quick business trip with H All is well here. I'm really looking forward to going to Boston in a couple of weeks - will be great to meet some DBers for lunch there. Back on Monday! Ellie
Hi Ellie..it's been a while..I've just been reading a bit of your thread that I've missed. you seem to going great guns. Lovely that you can travel with H and spend time away doing the P.Girlfiend type of stuff. All of the wonderful toe curling activities that we all used to do when we were dating / getting to know our SO's. Enjoy it!!
Hope you are well. Will hopefully post some more later.
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