CM, that story is the story of Job.I am sure you are familiar as it is basically saying that through it all you simply have to keep your faith in God that the direction he is leading you is the one you were meant to take.
Ian
Aha, thank you Ian
I have an awesome prayer partner who has been sooooo supportive and I know all of this is a test of my faith firstly & secondly a test of my SINCERE love for my wife.
My "american Prayer / Marriage Restoration support group wrote this to me after finding out about my wife's "activities":
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CM,
We surely understand the sadness you are experiencing. In discussing this during our devotional and prayer time tonight, we want to encourage you to be cautious as to "exposing" your wife's indiscretions to people. If her heart becomes softer down the road and the two of you have contact again, you wouldn't want this to come back to harm the possibility of reconciliation.
It's a good idea to resist the temptation to expose your wife's sins and instead, to do what you can to "cover" her with your words. We know this is just the opposite of what your hurt feelings or anger might feel like doing.
Bob and Audrey Meisner speak of this concept in their ministry. http://www.bobandaudrey.com. This is an excerpt from Bob and Audrey's story in the book Can My Marriage Be Saved? by Mae and Erika Chambers
"Had I understood the practiced the principle of covering my wife and family, the adultery might never have occurred. It was my lack of understanding of the covering principle that also caused me at first to want to tell everybody what Audrey had done and to declare my own innocence. But God's desire for our situation was healing and restoration, which started with concealing or covering it for protection. God designed every woman with a deep desire to be covered. Every man is designed by God to be a coverer, a protector and provider for his wife and children. Part of the man's function is to be a buffer between his family and the harshness of the world."
Please know that we are praying for you,
Clint and Penny
My friend replied after I forwarded him the email:
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That's certainly good advice as pertains to the world in general.
You definitely don't want to be going about telling every T, D & H that your wife is an adulterer.
As the paster says, it's bound to bite you when your wife comes home.
But, as to the divorce proceedings, from a purely financial perspective, evidence of indiscretion is bound to save you money.
Your lawyer can advise you on this, of course.
I suppose this has to be prayed about at length. It's impossible for me to give you a firm direction to take.
Some might say that if your feelings are truly sincere for your wife then you wouldn't want to drag her name through the mud at all. But there is the matter of the money.
I suppose the best course is to leave it all in God's hands. Focusing only on reducing a possible financial award to your wife can't be the main consideration.
You've probably done all you can in this regard by making clear in your deposition that you don't want a divorce and still love your wife.
I have to admit as I sit here that my feeling is that you don't drag in the possibility of infidelity. If you were trying to separate permanently from your wife then it would make sense, but as the goal is restoration, it does make sense to be as gentle as possible.
Of course, we should always be as gentle as possible!
