Yes, I can tell you with first hand experience, the children do see the truth, and will remember how we handle things also. I also know they do attach themselves to the most positive parent, they will also cling to the parent who is spoken poorly about, as they will feel the desire or need to defend that parent also...
Keep taking the high road, even though it is the most difficult road to travel. All the work and effort you put into taking the high road, will come back to you 10 fold.
Yes, you are absolutely right, your H IS holding on with everything and anything he can, and using his anger is a common way of holding on.... although, it really doesn't make sense, does it? My C told me Dick's anger is in direct relation to the amount of regret he has for what he has done. I said "Say what???" He said, "Oh ya, he's not a happy man" I said, "Well, that's a no brainer, but he has everything he said he wanted, including a wife who'd chose him over her own children." He said "If he was happy with his life the way it is today, he wouldn't be dragging you back to court, wouldn't waste the energy in making you out to be the bad guy." Then he answered the question that had been boggling my mind for a long time.... Which is why Dick didn't go after his other ex-wife like he has with me.... It was because he was actually happy in our life.
So, with all this said, keep in mind, and smile to yourself while knowing, the angrier your x gets, the more he misses you and your family, and somehow realizes he's screwed up, but his defense mechanisms are keeping him from seeing even his own truth!
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Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you.........
