You do what you wanna do, I leave it all up to you

[MichelleLT]

His insecurity is showing in how he is desperate to have something to do as a family. Very interesting.

Is there a way you could just do Fall ball so that not EVERY night is taken up?

[Sugar and Spice]

(((Dar))) (((Michelle))) we are already committed to football and DS wouldn't give that up for anything. Until school starts, football is 5 nights a week. Once school starts its at least 3. Fall ball starts in early September and lasts until November, so does football, so there is a higher than likely chance that it would be EVERY night. H doesn't take DS to practice, but since he is in town now, he might.

I'm not sure if it is so much about losing the kids, because I have never kept him from them, he has just been so busy in the past couple of months gambling and playing that he hasn't seemed to want to spend time with them. They would be at MIL's house and he would leave to go gamble or hang out with OW instead of being with them. He now seems more focused on being with them.

[quote=MichelleLT]His insecurity is showing in how he is desperate to have something to do as a family. Very interesting.
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Michelle can you elaborate on your theory? Is it more about being involved as a "family" or an excuse to spend time with me without the need for an excuse to her?

[MichelleLT]

I am not sure if it stems from him needing to believe that this D will be painless and the kids will be fine. Or him needing to believe that he can have the best of both worlds - the Troll at home but his old family when he wants. Or because he feels you slipping away and it scares him. Or because the Troll is pressuring him and causing him doubts.

What I see is him needing to maintain some sort of connection.

And while he obviously needs to maintain some sort of connection with the kids...he doesn't need to maintain a R with you outside of the kids. And yet, he seems to be doing it. Maybe a little.

[girlfromipanema]

I'm sorry you drove home in tears, but a good cry is what we need sometimes. A good hug never hurt anyone either, so (((((((((((((Corey))))))))))))!

so next Saturday, I will spend my birthday at the ball park - at least I won't be sitting at home with nothing to do. LOL.

Tried to sneak one by one us, huh? Is it this Saturday or next Saturday? Maybe your birthday will be the perfect time for a get together!???!!!?!?

Oh, and I think your husband is still very confused. He doesn't want to give up his family, but his addiction is pulling him in the other direction, leaving him on the fence. Just my thoughts.

[Maya44]

Oooooooh, I would LOVE a good get-together! D and I will go to CA to meet you and the kids can play together! We can all meet up for your bday Corey! Then you'd have more to do after the ball game!

[MichelleLT]

You'd better not be sitting at home with nothing to do on your B-Day. I will drive over and give you something to do!

[Maya44]

I think we should really plan a bday get-together. I can see if SW Airlines has cheap flights!

[Sugar and Spice]

(((GFI))) (((Dar))) (((Michelle))), you guys are too great! Thanks. My actual birthday is the 19th and the game starts at 5pm and from there my friend (the one who went to the cardroom with me when I sent H a drink...LOL) is taking me out for drinks and whatever mischief we can get into. I would love to plan a get together and we can all hang out and let the kids play and do something fun! Anyone who wants to come down and have drinks and mischief after the game is more than welcome!

My son was really sweet last night when he found out about being on All Stars. He asked me, "Mom, are we available on the 19th?" He was concerned that I wouldn't want to be at a game on my birthday, like I had some huge rager planned or something. He was willing to have them pick someone else if that is not what I wanted. He really is such a sweet kid.

Thanks again guys, I guess I'll have to change my signature, again.

[Maya44]

LOL! Corey, you stay 37 as long as your heart desires!

I would love to plan a get together for sure! Maybe over Thanksgiving break when the kids are settled in school and the weather in CA is a bit cooler? (I'm not one for hot weather and dream of living somewhere that stays 70-75 year round!)

[Sugar and Spice]

Dar thats funny. If you don't like heat, the Central Valley is definately not anwhere you want to be right now. Its hotter than blazes here right now with no relief in sight.

H got paid today and is already pretty much broke. He decided that DD was getting a Wii for her birthday and that she needed a cake from Smith's bakery ($50.00) and that he would buy those things if I took care of the rest. Now that its here, he wants me to pay for part of it. I already chipped in $20 for the cake and now hes whining about the cost of the Wii...

His gambling is eating him alive and even though he sees it, he is still not ready to do anything about it. So sad.