as I read your posts, I remember how I found out (through stbx/ow) how he was guilted into staying with ow, how she said he ruined her life, she couldn't trust anyone else and stbx took it upon himself to "fix" her, to try to help her (lord, a blind leading the blind), how responsible he felt for having her done wrong. He knew she could mess with his head, we could make sense and he could actually seemed like he was out of her reach, but the next day BAM! he'd see her/talk to her and it was all over, he was deep down in guilt-ville again, falling hook line and sinker for her waterworks and sob stories. But in the end it was his choice, no one can force you to do anything, it's true, he made the poor choices, that's why we should'n't give the ow's so much power.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
