I don't know... I thought the (new) goatee was pretty much a give away. And a friend I work with who's H had been deployed showed up at work with a FF of H who he had met while he was deployed... this really sent my heart racing. I thought that was so weird that the FF would show up at their home. It really made me wonder if they had an A while he was deployed. Another friend of mine said, no way would an OW show up here at their family home and I said, oh YES she would. People think these OW are normal people, not brazen, horrible, bunny boilers.
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
I'm glad your H read your mind and handed you the phone! No worries there! But most of us do have a problem with the "devil" cell phone! I am also one of those. My H had a big time A with his cell phone. I got a hold of one i=of the bills and H was calling OW 7-12+ a day! Talk about obsessed!
Quote: People think these OW are normal people, not brazen, horrible, bunny boilers.
LOL; rolling on the floor! That's right; this OW are not normal at all! I secong that!
My W used her cell phone to enable her A also. I came really close to smashing it on the ground one day. I hated that thing.
It was also how I caught her though. Cell phone bills are itemized except for incoming calls. Have the bill e-mailed directly to you and it cant be intercepted by the W. Then she also didnt know that it kept a log on her phone of who called her and who she called. That is until I showed her she had been calling another man.
I also had her code to check her voice mail and did every so often.
I hated that phone with a passion. It took a lot to keep me from throwing it at a brick wall.
FLoyd The grass is always GREENER over the septic tank.
My H did the same thing. I requested a copy of the bill, did a reverse search of the her phone number on the internet and found out her name and where she lived. My H is not a computer person and was appalled that I could get this information sooo easily and that it should be against the law!!!
Now if OW looked at H's cell phone bill, my number would be all over it1!!
I just wanted to thank you for your great ideas on 180's. I saw that it was you that posted these 180's on MH's or Nikatnight's thread.
I can't tell you the amount of questions my W asked and funny, neck snapping turns my W did when I did things like change cologne or changed my hair style. I just watched and was in awe of what was happening in front of me. Well, actually I was mentally ROFL. LOL
Can't thank you enough,
Berto
I believe that dreams are more powerful than facts,that laughter is the only cure for grief. And I believe that love is stronger than death
Quote: They start to come home long before they have it in them to admit they were wrong or even to admit they're coming home.
I took this from your post to nikatnight. I think my H is moving in this direction, but I have a feeling it might take awhile and I'm nervous as heck that I'm going to blow it or maybe nervous that he will come back and I'll blow it. I'm getting way ahead of myself I know.
Maybe you could offer some insights from my maniac posts from yesterday, when you have time.
Berto - thanks! Those little 180's really do have an effect. They sure confound our Ses who had convinced themselves we couldn't change as a way to justify their leaving!
