I don't know... I thought the (new) goatee was pretty much a give away. And a friend I work with who's H had been deployed showed up at work with a FF of H who he had met while he was deployed... this really sent my heart racing. I thought that was so weird that the FF would show up at their home. It really made me wonder if they had an A while he was deployed. Another friend of mine said, no way would an OW show up here at their family home and I said, oh YES she would. People think these OW are normal people, not brazen, horrible, bunny boilers.
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.