When she returned, instead of eating in the kitchen with the boys she went out on the back deck and ate by herself. That bothered the boys.
This is what happens with a confused mind. I strongly urge you to pay particular attention to your boys right now. This stuff is damaging. My then 6 year old once said to me "mommy is not the same anymore". Powerful words from a little boy.
As a loving and dedicated father, you must do 'damage control' now...even for HER sake should be ever come out of this. Kids need TWO parents and her departure hurts them. Stay strong...nurture them and support her TO THEM in your own kind and gentle words. It's OK to say to them that you love her and she is going thru tough times. Most importanly, almost ALL IC's and books will stress that it's important for you to let THEM know that "it's nothing that they've done." Just love them ...MORE.
Your children will look to you now mules. Even in her 'implosion', they will look at you to see how to react to a woman...how to deal with her behavior...etc.
Stay the same strong H you've always been. Don't waver to your kids.
As for the babysteps, I'm not a believer in them anymore. I think they are 'blurps' of normalcy in a sea of confusion. Reconciliation is bigger than that.
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
