I mentioned to her that her money is likely a draw, but now I wonder if she could come to use it to control H, make him do what she wants.
"The only person whose actions you can control are your own."
That goes for OW as well. She can't control him. She can't MAKE him do something he doesn't want to do. Neither can you. Your H is a grown man with his own free will. He will make his own decisions and act on his own depsite her money or your lack of it.
Have enough respect for him as a person to realize that he is an adult that cannot be controlled. By anyone. Then start treating him with that respect. It will get you far in the long run.
BFM
There is only one person who could ever make you happy, and that person is you. David Burns, Intimate Connections
