Chris, can you summarize things for me. One paragraph, where you're at, where she's at. She thinks she may be attracted to another woman ?

Is that a deal breaker for you? What if she included you in the "activities", (yes like in a 3-some) ? Is this something you could let her explore within the marriage ? Do you think your W was sexually abused as a child ? A lot of abused women have no boundaries sexually & are more into experimenting, & not sure about their feelings.

A lot of couples do things occasionallly to "spice" things up, & are quite happy together. Think out of the box buddy.
Maybe ? It could be a phase.

Abused women don't mature through the sexual stages at a normal appropriate age. They have missed out on a lot of the experimentation & desire it later in life. Sometimes, just knowing her curiosity is okay, & not being judged as "bad" is helpful. Some couples incorporate fantasy play to satisfy those curiosities.

If this idea is all morally repugnant to you, please accept my apologies. I'm not promoting or discouraging "alternate lifestyles", I'm looking for a way to help you hang on to your family, & love your wife through her confusion.

SC

M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months
4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10
I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.