Maybe you are having a late Quarter Life Crisis then lol.
The important thing is to have a balance in everything. Balance being selfish and generous. Balance saving and spending. Balance work and pleasure.
Originally Posted By: redsawks44
She finally opened up a little bit.
This is SO major! Genuinely positive no matter how hard it is for you to hear.
Originally Posted By: redsawks44
my dumbass reply of " it's my money".. didn't help things,
I am glad you recognize this. The next step is thinking about it and choosing not to say it lol.
Originally Posted By: redsawks44
How could she possibly be having doubts when she tells me " everyday i have a client 5-6 times a day telling me "how's the new house, how's H".. and she is telling them "it's good but i can't stay, i filed for D"...
Doesn't mean she won't change her mind. Doesn't mean she isn't having doubts. ALL it means is that her doubts aren't strong enough for her to stay RIGHT NOW.
Originally Posted By: redsawks44
Then she tells me everyday she wakes up stressed and is breaking out anf feels like crap, because she is worried i will go spend money like mad or have a breakdown.
Why does she feel this way? Did you ask her to explain and validate? She appears uncomfortable with the money you are spending on things like your tattoo. Which is a valid concern in a R/M, although less of one when you are S lol. Make sure to acknowledge her concerns, tell her you won't leave her hanging, that you are not going to make things difficult for her.
You would have every right to be hurt if she did go on a date. Just like she is entitled to her feelings, you are entitled to yours. However, you ARE S, so while you may not think it's okay to date, just keep in mind that she might have a different opinion.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
Just remember there is a thin line between love and hate. If an individual hates a person, it is because they still have feelings for them. It is apathy that is a danger. So she may hate you right now, but just keep doing what you are doing.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
The point is, the only person's whose opinion matters on that point is you! There's no right or wrong answer. Does how you answer that question change what you would do? If it doesn't, you don't even have to answer it!
Maybe you are having a late Quarter Life Crisis then lol.
The important thing is to have a balance in everything. Balance being selfish and generous. Balance saving and spending. Balance work and pleasure.
I am trying to balance these things, she asked why did i open a new account so she wouldn't see what i was spending? I told her, and was honest all i have spent is the 390 plus my tattoo, an occasional coffee..
Originally Posted By: redsawks44
She finally opened up a little bit.
This is SO major! Genuinely positive no matter how hard it is for you to hear.
Why is this major?
Originally Posted By: redsawks44
my dumbass reply of " it's my money".. didn't help things,
I am glad you recognize this. The next step is thinking about it and choosing not to say it lol.
Yes think before i speak.. after years of doing the opposite, i am learning this behavior
Originally Posted By: redsawks44
How could she possibly be having doubts when she tells me " everyday i have a client 5-6 times a day telling me "how's the new house, how's H".. and she is telling them "it's good but i can't stay, i filed for D"...
Doesn't mean she won't change her mind. Doesn't mean she isn't having doubts. ALL it means is that her doubts aren't strong enough for her to stay RIGHT NOW.
you think so?
Originally Posted By: redsawks44
Then she tells me everyday she wakes up stressed and is breaking out anf feels like crap, because she is worried i will go spend money like mad or have a breakdown.
Why does she feel this way? Did you ask her to explain and validate? She appears uncomfortable with the money you are spending on things like your tattoo. Which is a valid concern in a R/M, although less of one when you are S lol. Make sure to acknowledge her concerns, tell her you won't leave her hanging, that you are not going to make things difficult for her.
She is worried i will do like in the past and just get things i want NOW.. i reassured her i don't do the impulsive things anymore.
You would have every right to be hurt if she did go on a date. Just like she is entitled to her feelings, you are entitled to yours. However, you ARE S, so while you may not think it's okay to date, just keep in mind that she might have a different opinion.
I don't think she will date.. i know she told me if i decide to go on a date, noone comes in the house..
She also mentioned if i do a response affadavit it will delay things, i acknowledged that
Just remember there is a thin line between love and hate. If an individual hates a person, it is because they still have feelings for them. It is apathy that is a danger. So she may hate you right now, but just keep doing what you are doing.
to say she is hating me more and more each day tho...
This is SO major! Genuinely positive no matter how hard it is for you to hear.
Why is this major?
Originally Posted By: redsawks44 How could she possibly be having doubts when she tells me " everyday i have a client 5-6 times a day telling me "how's the new house, how's H".. and she is telling them "it's good but i can't stay, i filed for D"... Doesn't mean she won't change her mind. Doesn't mean she isn't having doubts. ALL it means is that her doubts aren't strong enough for her to stay RIGHT NOW.
Yesterday is history tomorrow is a mystery today is a gift thats why they call it the present
You cannot change the past, and you don't know what tomorrow will bring. All you can do is live for today. You notice on here that whenever we start to do well, inevitably the S gets angry, jealous, and wonders why...why now? Those feelings do fade, and they begin to see that you are the person that they fell in love with!
(((Sawks))) you are doing great. Don't let the man get you down...
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
