my crazy mess part 3...

[christarn]

FG, nothing has been split...papers are filed, i asked for everything i paid for with my inheritance...i was angry...the day i went to the atty...i was angry...now, i don't know....all i want is my marriage...

he told me at least 3 or 4 times last year he was willing to work on this...last fall he said he wanted D, called me 3 days later, said he changed his mind... i wonder where he really is??

"Tell him you called the pool guy.. and he said he really needed to look at it to give the best assessment of what to do with it. You would hate to tear the pool down.. just in case he (your H) ever felt like he wanted to take up swimming. But if the pool guy says it is hopeless.. then you are open to tearing it down. You are willing to help with the cost.. for whatever needs to be done. You don't want it to be solely his problem."

I like this idea...will text it to him later...

how much time to let him decompress....i feel he may need some decompression time...not much 2 week rule is not in effect here...but some.

"If you were really mad.. or done with someone.. wouldn't you make sure they heard it?"

if he said it once, he said it fifty times...he and i will never be...but he didn't come out and say, stop texting, stop calling...leave me the hell alone....what do you think? need manput on that one!

off to the shrink...let's see how crazy i really am!!! LOL