I see you're already getting anxious about the NC from him. No, he can't decide, but you can't decide for him and nothing you can do or say will push him toward a decision. Nothing she can do or say will push him toward a decision either.
That my dear is one of the basic principals of detachment. Loving someone enough to stop trying to control thier life. Stop trying to manipulate their decisions to meet your needs. Detachment is loving someone enough to allow them to go out on their own and make thier own decisions and live their own life without you always there to pick them up or to maneuver outcomes by always being in the middle of everything. It's easier to understand when put into the context of an alcoholic, not as easy to understand with something as confusing as MLC.
BFM
There is only one person who could ever make you happy, and that person is you. David Burns, Intimate Connections
