Maybe you are having a late Quarter Life Crisis then lol.
The important thing is to have a balance in everything. Balance being selfish and generous. Balance saving and spending. Balance work and pleasure.
I am trying to balance these things, she asked why did i open a new account so she wouldn't see what i was spending? I told her, and was honest all i have spent is the 390 plus my tattoo, an occasional coffee..
Originally Posted By: redsawks44
She finally opened up a little bit.
This is SO major! Genuinely positive no matter how hard it is for you to hear.
Why is this major?
Originally Posted By: redsawks44
my dumbass reply of " it's my money".. didn't help things,
I am glad you recognize this. The next step is thinking about it and choosing not to say it lol.
Yes think before i speak.. after years of doing the opposite, i am learning this behavior
Originally Posted By: redsawks44
How could she possibly be having doubts when she tells me " everyday i have a client 5-6 times a day telling me "how's the new house, how's H".. and she is telling them "it's good but i can't stay, i filed for D"...
Doesn't mean she won't change her mind. Doesn't mean she isn't having doubts. ALL it means is that her doubts aren't strong enough for her to stay RIGHT NOW.
you think so?
Originally Posted By: redsawks44
Then she tells me everyday she wakes up stressed and is breaking out anf feels like crap, because she is worried i will go spend money like mad or have a breakdown.
Why does she feel this way? Did you ask her to explain and validate? She appears uncomfortable with the money you are spending on things like your tattoo. Which is a valid concern in a R/M, although less of one when you are S lol. Make sure to acknowledge her concerns, tell her you won't leave her hanging, that you are not going to make things difficult for her.
She is worried i will do like in the past and just get things i want NOW.. i reassured her i don't do the impulsive things anymore.
You would have every right to be hurt if she did go on a date. Just like she is entitled to her feelings, you are entitled to yours. However, you ARE S, so while you may not think it's okay to date, just keep in mind that she might have a different opinion.
I don't think she will date.. i know she told me if i decide to go on a date, noone comes in the house..
She also mentioned if i do a response affadavit it will delay things, i acknowledged that
