WAW is full steam ahead

[LosingSunshine]

Thanks again Neil for the advice and support. It is much appreciated and can use all of the help as things settle down at this new state.

I have been reading a lot of threads the past few days and finding a lot of good ideas. With regards to going dark, I grabbed this from ndsmhlps thread...is this it? Is this what you mean?

"Give her "without you.

ALL THE WHILE remaining the same loving, kind, considerate new man that he has been the last three months.

Make arrangements to make the separation possible, slowly withdrawing from activities with your wife..."

Of course in my sitch it's 3-4 weeks and not months, and there is no separation just heading straight for D (thanks SD legislature :-( )

With regards to goals. I'll stick with the smiling, like you. This is real hard for me as I don't normally think at this level.

The thing about the IC for her, we both know that it is something she needs to do, especially is she is experiencing some "confusion". But I will not be bringing it up with her anymore as it will be viewed as pressure. Heck, can't pretty much do anything, right? Just focus on me, my kids, my life and hope she comes around. Focus on giving her without me.

Chris