Hope4us struggle, part 6

[Hope4us]

OMG! W just sent me an IM. Here's what it said!

I know you have a meeting coming up, but wanted to say thanks again for the pie yesterday. I really appreciated the thought

Now I'm just suspicious at what's going on. This is all happening too fast. Did S16 telling her he wanted to move with our without her wake her up? Did she realize she's almost lost both of us and started to figure this out?

I'm just going to enjoy it without getting too excited, but it's hard not to.

[whatdidido]

My guess is that maybe she didn't even realize that she was thinking about OM for the future and when you called her on it it became clear????? Maybe?

Have you done things like the pie thing lately? Maybe she was just waiting for you to do some of those things?

Maybe she read one of those books?

Whatever the reason, embrace it. Keep doin what you're doin, it's working.

[Hope4us]

Thanks WDID. I used to do things like this all the time and I think maybe now that I've stopped doing them she's starting to recognize it. That, plus she seems to be getting though WD so maybe she's recognizing those things she misses now that she's separated from OM some.

I'm not going to push anything now. She knows I have the books. If we keep progressing I'm sure there will be a point where she figures out that she's going to have to help me recover and I assume part of that will be her asking me what she can do for me and the books will be one of the things.

I am embracing this stuff while trying to not get too darn excited. But there's definitely a great big on my face. I'm just ready to do the difficult work that will be required to get past this stuff.

[kat727]

Everything is sounding good for you. I am truely happy for you. Keep it up!!

kat

[runningoutoftime]

Wow, sounds good!!! Just try to relax, keep expectations low, but be a friend and stay positive even if she flirts with some nut. She's WITH YOU. Tell her you can't blame these guys for staring at her or making a pass, but she's too valuable for a one night stand. Give lots of compliments. Do not hesitate to tell her she's beautiful, and later that she's soooo sexy!

[whatdidido]

Root gives very good advice.

[Hope4us]

Thanks Kat, ROOT, WDID.

Another pretty good night. We didn't see each other much as she had a hair appt right after work and I had one a little later so it was later in the night when we finally got together, but when we did we talked and it was nice. I told her her hair looked nice and she smiled so she seems to be responding to compliments. Just need to not go overboard.

This morning before I left for work I went upstairs to tell her the dog hadn't been outside yet. She was standing there putting on her bra and had on this tiny pair of boy short undies and MAN, bout sent me through the roof! This weekend is going to be hard if there's no contact, but I just have to keep reminding myself, PATIENCE, PATIENCE, PATIENCE....

I really don't want to have any expectations for this weekend, but thanks ROOT, I will be in full blown complementary mode this weekend. The trick is to do it in a way that's not seen as pursuing.

I was talking to my brother last night and told him that I'm almost scared that things seem to be moving in the right direction. I've been dealing with this crap for so long that now that things seem to be going in the right direction I don't know how to act.

Oh well, I'm hoping this weekend goes as well as the last few weeks have.

[runningoutoftime]

>>The trick is to do it in a way that's not seen as pursuing.<<

Yes, not pursuing, but lighthearted and fun. Just try to joke and have fun. Don't worry or take anything too seriously.

One thing I've learned it's okay to give compliments and be nice even if the other person doesn't want you or is going to leave you tomorrow. You never LOSE anything by being a loving person. So don't be afraid to give. Also, giving isn't about what you get back.

Have an awesome weekend!!!!
Carpe Diem

[Hope4us]

Thanks ROOT, I'll keep that in mind.

Leaving soon for our overnighter. I'm excited and scared at the same time. I took yesterday afternoon off and drove down and spent the afternoon/evening with S19. We had a great time.

And W was TM'ing me like crazy. I mean, it almost got annoying. I can't believe I'm saying that, but man, she just wouldn't shut (tm) up!

Before I left I put a load of undies in the washer and sent her a TM asking if she'd put them in the dryer when she got home and she replied "yes". when I got home, not only were they dry, but she had folded them too! I mean, what woman folds the undies of someone she doesn't care about?

Ok, thanks for all the advise. I'll post when I can after we get back. Wish me luck!

[fightingirish]

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