Like the title says, my H and I have been separated for 3 months, half of that time he has been out of town visiting his family with little contact. I feel that this has been a huge setback for me DBing, except that it has allowed me time to detach.
It's been 3 very long months of soul-searching for me, and I think I'm in an OK place right now. My H, by contrast, is not in a good place, seemed depressed from my last conversation with him a couple weeks ago which did not go well. He said all the usual fog stuff, with some new ones thrown in there for good measure--"we're not compatable". Coming from my best friend--hurtful news to me! Guilt, jealously, suspicion, anger all reared their ugly heads from him, which was my own fear reflected back at me. It made me sad.
He gets back into town in a little less than a week, and so I will have a chance to actually see him and take stock better of where we are. More detached, I think I am in a better place to do that than I was before he left. I feel better about myself than I have in a long time.
I'm rediscovering me, as painful as the process has been, that's a good thing.
It is in the shelter of each other that people live.--Irish proverb
But fortunately, I'm with good people here.