BM, I have to confess that after reading your last post I'm confused so can possibly see how your H might be also.
You start by saying that you don't want a M without intimacy and yet you end by saying that the door on intimacy is shut to anyone right now. Even if you haven't expressed this to your H I'm sure he will have sensed it.
From what you say you have gone through problems with LD before and maybe your H doesn't want to re-visit the hurt (for either of you) in relation to this. It certainly seems that if he does have the vocabulary to voice his opinions/fears on this that he is not prepared to use it.
As long as you are happy it doesn't matter what action you take. I just wanted to highlight to you how you are saying two different things right now.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
