All Things Work Together for Good...16

[Committed2Him]

Donna,

Thank you for your kind comments They led me to the following thoughts:


Thoughts "Rejection"

Just now it came to me that the rejection by our spouses likely makes us a little hesitant to risk being hurt again. There are some lessons we gained by going through DBing:

(disclaimer: there were legitimate reasons our spouses drifted and, hopefully, we have learned about ourselve enough to address those issues for our own growth, indedpendent of "hooking up.")

"You don't make me happy" - Our spouses frequently left the marriage because they were trying to fill a void, an unhappiness in their lives that likely neeeded to be filled through their own becoming whole - one should not look for another to make themself "whole" nor should they look for another to "make them happy."(Just now in thinking about begging and pleading back then, just how satisfying would it really have been to tell our spouses, "heck, you sure aren't the on the Cover of 'Ideal Spouse' magazine either LOL! Alas, we were in survival mode but boy, to have a second crack at it.... As Glesaon would say, "how sweet it is!" )

"Rejection" by another, of our advances doesn't necessarily mean there is something wrong wiht us, just that we are not a good fit for them and, if not a good fit for them, conversely, they would certainly not be a good fit for us. (Execptions, and there are many, if I were to slurp, pick my nose over a meal, make eye contact (with OTHER women) while on a date ... well then, I would deserve rejection due to "something definitely being wrong" with me.

So, as ya'll been saying, "go for it, chicken!" (ok, so I combined statements but that's what was meant"