When I left you yesterday things were up and down and continued that way until I changed it.. I was worried about D14 and what she was feeling with all she had learned... I was upset because of the OW.. and did some minor snooping which was no benifit to me emotionally (it never is).. 2 months ago I would have pouted, showed my annoyance at the situation at hand... But coming here and meeting Michele and reading all I have read, I put it into action... I did not pout or tell H how upset I was... I acted "as-if" everything was fine..
My work day ended with a game.... H and I occasionally work together.. I am a fill in at times... I have been covering for our office manager who is on vacation. Which has helped my DBing efforts... H asked me to go over ome paperwork, it was really stressing him out so I just started pointing out the positives and told him I would get a handle on it... as he turn the corner I asked him if he would like to "relieve some stress." When he came back in I had a grin on my face that made him laugh... then he just started talking business again... Normally I would have went back to business and internally stewed at his "rejection".. Instead I asked him if he heard me.. He said "No... what did you say?" I told him and he just looked at me.. I said... "are you going to make me ask you again?" He laughed look behind him and started to "chase me around the desk".. A great way to end the work day...
He had asked earlier in the day if I wanted to go workout with him.. I was contemplating (remember I was annoyed.. I had just snooped)- trying to 180...I decided instead I would have dinner with a girl friend and drinks with her afterwards...(adding mystery here) and it worked.... When I came home H was taking the oppotunity and we had a wonderful evening.... We both woke up early this morning ... ususally he wakes me telling me its time to get to work.. this time he woke by cuddling up next to me... and still feeling frisky.. we started the day off in a whole new way...
My point being... by doing the unexpected, I got what I wanted by fulfilling HIS needs... He didn't need me to be mad or upset.. he needed the affection and support.. In return, I got the affection and attention I wanted. He didn't want to see me annoyed and sitting in on the couch or chair pouting and talking stuff to death... he wanted me to enjoy myself, be happy...and I did.. and I got the love and affection and attention that I needed. All are happy in this family today.. but it is early and emotions run high at times... but for now... i am gonna sit back.. and appreciate this time...
Hope you all have a great day...
Me - 38 H-36 DD - 15 S- 19 Together -almost 18 years M - 16 The Bomb - May 24th 2008 Meeting with Michelle July 7, 2008 Status - I moved out Sept 2009
When he came back in I had a grin on my face that made him laugh... then he just started talking business again... Normally I would have went back to business and internally stewed at his "rejection".. Instead I asked him if he heard me.. He said "No... what did you say?" I told him and he just looked at me.. I said... "are you going to make me ask you again?" He laughed look behind him and started to "chase me around the desk".. A great way to end the work day... 