Quote: A couple of weeks ago he told me I should see his C. I called the C and haven't heard back from him. Don't know if anything will come of this.
Why do you think he said this? Was it because he has one of those horrible counselors who is telling him to "move on and find his happiness" or because he has a good one who is helping him with his depression and he thinks you could use the help too?
Have you given the OW's H the DR book? If HE could DB the OW back into her marriage, it would be easier for you to get your H back. Obviously, a woman who would leave her four kids is not someone who will make your H happy in the long run. But MLC, depression, whatever it is is a very powerful thing.
You don't have control over what he eventually decides to do. But you DO have control over who you become. The stronger you become, the more you become a vibrant and interesting person, the more beautiful, fit and strong you become - the better off you will be, whether he comes back or not. So right now is the time to focus on you. Do you need to lose weight, become more athletic, become more adventurous, loosen up? Do it. And don't let H think he has you - don't be available all the time, go out and be a little mysterious about where you are going, let him wonder if he's losing you.
