Most likely, she is angry because you are doing things she wishes you had done a very long time ago. Saying you are having a mid-life crisis is externalizing the changes you are making - basically saying it's because of some identity crisis and that she doesn't believe they'll stick once your MLC is over perhaps?
Perhaps it would make her feel too bad to realize that you are making these changes because you deserve to feel this good and because you love her.
She is not ready to accept that you would work to make things better. That goes against her stereotypes of you! I think her anger MIGHT be a good thing...a sign that she is having doubts, that she is wondering about your potential as a H (i.e. revising it upwards lol).
It IS how she feels right now. She may not quite realize why, she just knows how she feels. But that doesn't mean anything a year from now. Just like the good times a few years ago aren't holding the M together now, her anger now won't necessarily push you apart forever.
Oh, and as long as you have a mild MLC w/ no A and no reckless spending, a tan and a tattoo are perfectly acceptable outlets!
For her to cry like that really hurt me.. i didn't show alot of emotion, just tried to listen to her. She finally opened up a little bit. For her to tell me she hates me more every day hurts. She did make comments that things i am doing now, i should have been doing a year ago. I respectfully agreed. She doesn't beleieve the changes are real. Her comment about "why did you spend 390 bucks " (on a DB coach).. when you coul;d have gotten freee advice from work counsellors.. and my dumbass reply of " it's my money".. didn't help things, just a while ago, she mentioned "we are seperate people now living in the same house" , so why should she care how i spend a little money here and there. I thought it be important to try and save the M.
Hopw could she possibly be having doubts when she tells me " everyday i have a client 5-6 times a day telling me "how's the new house, how's H".. and she is telling them "it's good but i can't stay, i filed for D"...
Then she tells me everyday she wakes up stressed and is breaking out anf feels like crap, because she is worried i will go spend money like mad or have a breakdown.
She also mentioned she thought about just leaving and giving me everything (never said a peep)
I don't want/need an A.. no interest in that.. could i be having a MLC at 37 years old? (i never thought of it that way)..
Tan, tattoo, gym(getting in shape) is a MLC?
Do i bring anything further up or just let her do it?
