haunted by memory of Ow

[LuvMyHusband]

Hi Jack,
I reminded him that he had said he had gotten rid of that stuff. He has apologized for it but isn't taking full responsibility. He says that "you caused us both unnecessary pain by looking at my email". Can you believe it? He is also upset because I was honest and told him that yes, I did email her. I wanted her to know that their R caused pain. Apparently she D her H for infidelity and here she did the same to someone else. My H told me that he was upset that I contacted her and that I made him "look like he set out to cheat and to use her". Incredible, that he is more concerned about what SHE feels and SHE thinks and how HE feels than me!! I kept my cool and told him that it hurts that this is his concern instead of me. I also told him that he should be more concerned for my feelings and what I think and feel for him than anyone else. He just doesn't seem to get that HE is the one who caused this by his actions not me. I also told him what I need and want from him. His attitude that if I didn't know, it wouldn't be a problem just hurts me more. His attitude that if "he makes a mistake and should be able to do it and correct it without me knowing" is ridiculous. This just isn't any "mistake". It's a breach of trust on his part. Good grief. Any suggestions here? He seems to be oblivious.