I'd say he is feeling a lot of pressure to do so much and he is confused about a lot of things.

Fourteen months seems like a long time but it really isn't for MLCers.

I would just lay low, give him his space, and let him be.

He has to get thru this on his own.

No R talks from you, no talk about OW, etc.

The Bomb: 08/05
H moves out: 06/2006
H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07
H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08
H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09
Divorced 08-12
Kids: 22, 20, 19