I just read through your sitch and I feel for you. My h said all kinds of things I did wrong and I agreed that he was right. So far, not one word of what he did wrong. Yet he is unhappy and its all about him, and how he has to be happy and at peace with himself.
I haven't given up, yet.
Just find it interesting the similarities.
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.