(((((Michelle, Mishka, Julia, Kelly Jo))))) Thanks to all of you!
Kelly Jo, I think this is a really good time for you to focus on you. He's probably a bit confused in his head right now! Take care of yourself, and I think there's a good chance things will fall into place!
Julia.... step back from the chocolate.... turn around, and walk away!
Michelles! The Mexican coffee actually sounds good!
I bought some Propel vitamin water powder packets to try, then I left them at home! Oh, well!
I wrote the Greek good morning on the mirror last night. I saw W this morning, didn't really talk to her. She didn't say anything, yet again!
I really want Mexican hot chocolate or coffee now.....lol
(((Jeff)))
Do you normally see her in the mornings? Evenings? Does it vary by work schedule? How much do you guys talk (even about necessary things like finances and the house)?
Is there a way you could get up earlier or later so that you guys had more time together either in the morning or evening?
If you guys hardly talk about basic stuff, she's not going to feel comfortable saying anything about the mirror stuff is my bet. Combined with her being an Aries (trust me, I KNOW how hard that is to live with lol my baby sister is an Aries too) she won't want to admit she's been wrong...
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
I see her pretty much every evening, at least for a while. Though we rarely talk much. She'll talk about/complain about work sometimes, or S18! To me, it feels like she pretty much shuts down any conversation I'll try to start. And so, suprisingly, I don't try to start very many.
Most mornings I dont' see much of her. Even when I do we rarely say more than good morning, if that. When school starts next week there may be some schedule adjustment, but I don't expect that we will talk any more.
I was kind of hoping that the mirror might give her something relatively safe to talk about. But, so far, that doensn't seem to be the case.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Hmm, does she have fast or slow speech patterns? Is she very polite in conversation, or is she comfortable interrupting?
What I'm getting at here is that maybe right now she needs you to JUST listen to whatever she wants to talk about.
My H claims I never LET him talk, that I always interrupted him. I never saw it that way. But looking at myself now, I realize I talk a lot faster than him, I ramble more. And my friends know they can just interrupt me (either to ask questions, comment, or even go off on a tangent) and I won't be the least bit offended, but he would never do that. His family is VERY polite in conversation and wouldn't dream of talking over someone!
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
That was one of my chief faults, the interrupting, but I know now that was a control pattern. So I make sure I don't do that now.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Well, she says I interrupt her, though I don't think it is nearly as bad as she says. But, it's something that she hangs on to. I really try not to do it now.
I listen when she talks, I think. Of course it's hard to interrupt a one word answer.
That is true. But she could just be confused at all the changes you have made as well. Does not know how to take it.
Keep your chin up (((Jeff))), King of Comedy, you are doing great, and I believe she is seeing that, and is just shocked by it.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
