That was what I meant when I first brought this up. I feel like many of the sitchs end up the same way. There was or is a OP involved.
The more time goes on and W hints that she's not "dating" this OM (i think he's a friend w/ benefits) she's actually pushing me away. The point is, I don't want to deal with her until this guy doesn't exist.
PD, I agree. We shouldn't make ourselves more attractive just in response to OM. We should make ourselves more attractive in general. When I met W, I was 175lbs, played sports regularly, cycled and like to go out. She obviously found this attractive. By the end of last year, I was 230lb, never exercised and like to stay home.
Now....I exercise daily (sometimes twice), down to 185lb with goal of 169, I'll playing softball again soon and I'm going out regularly. I'm doing this for me first. If W or someone else notices than so be it. But I'm having fun doing it too.
M 35 W 28 D 4
Bomb 4/28/08 Found out about PA 05/14/08 Separated 5/25/08 (not legally)
