Went to work this morning in a pretty good mood. We had a building meeting that ran long. When I got back to my desk, I had 2 messages. The first one I could just hear some crying. The second one was D4's voice saying....mommy, where are you? I thought maybe she'd just woken up when she called, but I called back to check. H handed the phone to D4 and she was very, very upset & crying. She told me that she didn't feel well and that daddy was mad because she wanted to wear a dress to school. This dress is not too short in my opinion, but H wanted her to wear shorts under it, as he thought it was too short. I heard him yell.....THEN TELL YOU MOM TO COME AND GET YOU. I'M SICK OF YOU. Then he grabbed the phone and said....GET YOUR ASS HOME AND GET HER. I got home as quickly as I could. D4's eyes were very red. H said to me....You can take her to school every day from now on and he walked out, slamming the door. He is participating in a golf outing today for work. D4 cried asking why daddy was so mad and why he hit the wall. Then she asked when daddy would be nice to her again. I just cried. I cried the whole way home, not expecting her to be hurt but because of the hurt I heard in her voice. So, even though I really should take her to school, I am going to spend the day with her.
SueS
ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day
Sad story, Sue. I'm glad you are spending the day with her. I hope when custody is worked out he will remember this and not take D4 more than he can handle (which is not very much).
I'm so sorry, hug that baby, she knows that you love her and will protect her. His behavior was very unacceptable. She's 4 years old, she was just voicing her assertiveness. If he wanted her to wear the shorts under the dress, he could have handled it much differently!
Hugs, Yoyo
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Oh Sue... your D4 is so lucky to have a wonderful Mommy that will run home and take care of her. You're H has gone off the deep end treating your baby that way! What the H*ll is wrong with him? She (and you!), don't deserve to be treated this way!
HUGGGGS to you and D4. Stear clear of the jerk as much as you can.
