I completely agree with your assessment. And, it still angers me that it's so hard to convince anyone else (i.e. health professionals, relatives, friends) that something may be wrong, other than the Spouse is a terrible person.
It's just so accepted in society that most don't even bat an eye when a H or W of 10, 20 or more years suddenly wants to end the marriage because "they've been unhappy for years" Get real.
It took almost a year for any counselor or doctor to even suggest to my W that MAYBE there was another problem here.
And of course, the treatment plan seems kind of hit or miss at best...but that's another story.
