Your W is starting to see the big picture now. It was nice of you to offer her dinner and include her in your daughters achievement. We are in the midst of that as well. My D is completely trained and my S is about 1/2 to 3/4 the way there.
In my sitch, I had noticed for several months leading up to the sep and through the sep my kids
-tended to be more agressive to one another -played strong favorites to their gender parent (i.e. my S would be mean to my W and my D would be mean to me) -plenty of temper tantrums (they are almost three, but these were fairly frequent and unexplained) -very possessive of their gender parent -very possessive of their toys
Since getting back together their whoel demeanor is 100% better. They were always good kids, but now they are so happy it is almost obnoxious. For the last several weeks they just play and giggle all day and all night. It is like they can see that there is no longer any or very little tension between my W and me. Your kids might be happier now because they are not exposed to this tension. When you two work things out you will likely see an even bigger change.
From your posts it really sounds like you have reached a good state of detachment....it is almost like this is coming natural to you....that is good....it becomes much easier. I also find that without this self imposed pressure, it is actually easier to mend things...you don't feel like you are walking on eggshells as much. I have told myself that if I don't have another R talk then I am ok with it as long as I can see actions
TwinDad Me 39, W 36, M 11 W - MLC, WAW???? 2 Kids B/G 3 YRS Old Start of the Long and Bumpy Road..... On the verge of piecing.....a new beginning
