WOW!! progress w H? Keeping my PMA

[Neilh23]

No. Remember, those are HIS feelings, not yours. YOu can only empathize with him. I know i beat myself up alot too because i feel guilty for treating my W the way i did (now granted, i know it wasn't intentional, but i see my behavior pretty clearly right now, and understand my W's feelings from reading some posts of the WAW's on here....and i think to myself, what an a**hole....how could i treat the woman i love more than anything like that?) The one thing i've learned from my C is that i learned these behaviors from watching my parents. now they made it work for them.....it obviously didn't work for my sitch.

you're doing great. let him work his feelings out on his own, and don't rush him. Feelings are a tough thing to grasp and understand. Just go with the flow....