Wow ann I just spent close to 3 hours reading this entire thread and would like to say how somewhat I see myself in your husband's shoes(i know that doesnt sound good for me)but I am cursed with being male. I would just like to say also that seeing as how similar he is to me, if you did take dom's advice and move out for a bit(like a trial seperation) it really would do wonders on him. I know it has for me, when my wife moved out and said she wanted a divorce, I wanted nothing more than to work on the R/M more passionately than I ever have wanted anything before in the past.
I understood what dom is trying to say also about how your little girl's will be worse off post-divorce, yes he may not be treating them very well at all right now, but going through a divorce will throw a lot more "scary" people at them that you cant protect them from who just want to divy them up like they're nothing more than good china. So still think seriously about whether, even though they are being treated bad, that putting them through that wouldnt be worse and would last a hell of a lot longer(their whole lives)
See I can really compare myself to him alot cause he seems as hardheaded/stubborn as I am, and it takes a great emotional shock to finally make me open my eyes and step out of my protective bubble that I've gotten used to. If talking isnt working with him then do a more drastic action, besides it does seem like hes not a talker but one that learns by actions.
I know I may not be providing much help but I hope that at least I could help in someway.
God does love you and wants nothing more than to keep your family together, but your the one who has to do all the work. Good luck
M: almost 3 years S: for 8 months now W: 23 Me: 25 Sons: K3, H1 Bomb: November 26th, 2007 My current thread
