my soul mate is leaving (gone)

[bluerain]

I was trying to keep up with my H on facebook and myspace, until he changed his relationship status to "in a relationship" and started to add the OW's little girlie friends to his list. Its disgusting and pathetic, little bar flies practically half his age. I stay totally off there now, I know that nothing good will come of me looking. Take comfort though, she is, in fact, still married. And dont get bent out of shape over it, shes trying to prove something. All its really proving is that shes immature.

Stop trying to spy, influence, manipulate, guilt-trip, bargain, plead. What is happening is absolutely awful, but you have to remove the magnifying glass. Setting yourself up to keep tearing your wound open wont help you solve anything. Letting yourself regain your confidence, self-esteem will help you get ready to fight for your marriage, you cant fight for anything curled up sobbing.