Hi SC - I agree with Lodo - you don't want to empower him too much in your heart - and that letter sounds like it's taking power away from you and handing it back to him. I would be more inclined to mourn for him - and the father he never was.

...for what it's worth...sb.

Me:39
S3,S13

"We consent to live like sheep." W.H. Auden

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