Real Life part 6

[MichelleLT]

Ali Suddenly, Kalni Sunshine, etc. Mine is under my real name, but you'll find me easy enough through the two of them.

[Sugar and Spice]

Not everyone was smart enough to use their name here. Some people tried to be sneaky and used an alias that they are now stuck with...betcha can't guess who.

(((Starshyne))) I don't think you H gets it yet either, but he will have to at some point. When the 16th arrives, if he hasn't found a place then that is by his choice, DAM!

I'm giving some thought to painting the inside of my house and doing some small things just to make it a little more mine and if H ever comes home and doesn't like it...oh well.

Have a great day. Corey

[cat03]

I looooove craigslist, that's how I redid my bathroom and kitchen lights, I too want to fix my home and have it look new and nice.

Hope he gets a clue and doesnt' stay after the date, honestly, that'd be too much, even for him.

[Sugar and Spice]

He might get a clue when the keys no longer work. I hope it doesn't come to that though.

[Starshyne]

Well I got the offical divorce papers from the lawyer today. They are so difficult for me to read. Hard to think that 5 yeras of marriage and memories are just down to a thick stack of stapled papers divding up things.

It says very clearly on there that H is to be off the property by July 16, 2008. However..if he does come on the property and try to get in the house (even after the locks are changed). I will call the police. The police MAY say that this is a civil matter and I will have to let him in (I know...this is getting insane!). Then I will have to sue him to get him out of the house! But...my lawyer wants to to bluff him and so that he doesnt know that part. Plus the police might just say to him that he has to leave.

The sad truth is that I know that it will come down to that. He isn't going to make this easy on me. I told him today when he came by to nap? that I got the papers. He goes "what papers?" and I say "the papers that I will show the police if you try to get in the house after the 16th" He didn't say anything. :p

I really don't understand why he is making everything so difficult.

[MichelleLT]

I'm not sure he understands either. He is reacting, not acting. All he knows is he has lost control lol.

((((((Sara))))))

Hang in there for a few more days!

[lodo]

Sorry Sara,

I know they're hard to read. When I got mine they were full of mistakes - I still don't know what that means but probably nothing.

I feel like the last 12 years has been a dream that I'm just now waking from - do you feel the same?

I don't think D papers are quite what you want to keep him off the property. If you want to keep him away you need to get a restraining order. Easy enough to do.

This IS getting insane, but I'm impressed at how well you are handling this. Is this the same Sara from months back? You should re-read some of your old posts and feel good about the strong, vibrant person you are now.

Hey, nice "meeting" you! How the heck did you get 20+ friends in your first few hours of being on fb?! My 17 year old niece has 650 friends - I see you're probably going after her record!

Keep taking care of yourself! Did you like "across the universe"?

lodo

[Starshyne]

Well I think everyone I went to college with has added me! LOL! There is a group of friends from college on there. That is why I joined because I was talking on the phone to one of them and said that my name was brought up and everybody misses me. So I joined.

I do feel like I am waking up from a dream or something. It is really strange. But I can honestly say that I do not regret the past 7 (5 M 2 dating) years of my life. When my H was a true man, he taught me more than I could have ever learned on my own and with him I experienced things I never would have experienced without him. And as sad as I am to let all of that go, at least I have those things to remember. I promised myself that I am not going to look back and remember the past 8 months. Instead I want to look and remember the good things.

My L says that the divorce degree will work to show the police because it is a court ordered document that H signed that states that H will be out of the house on or before July 16, 2008. And that I am the soul owner of the home. He signed the quickclaim deed and everything. BUT if that doesn't work then I will move onto plan B which will be to get an order of protection against him. That will only be good for 2 weeks. And since he is not physically harming me, the judge won't get a restraining order. But at least I would have to deal with him for 2 full weeks.

Now about Across the Universe. I reviewed it on one of my myspace. I wasn't highly impressed. H and saw it at the movie theatre when it was released. Some of the music worked really well for me and others didn't work at all. I am very protective of my Beatles music. You all don't know it about me, but I am totally obsessed with the Beatles (which may or may not have been the beginning of the downfall of my marriage). There is a Beatles bootleg named after me called, "Starshyne's Beatles for kids." I am not sure if that is nerdy or if it is cool.

It is almost midnight so....5 more days!!!!

[karen43]

Sorry Sara,

I know they're hard to read. When I got mine they were full of mistakes - I still don't know what that means but probably nothing.

lodo

I think that means our WAS are self-involved! My H put down our wrong wedding date (and it's also his birthday !!!) and my birthdate was wrong and my D8s. I was amazed he got one date right-my son's. imho, they should not consider him for primary custody of the kids right there--kind of crazy!!!

Sara, sorry you are going through this, but I guess counting down the days helps--it will be over soon!!! (((((Sara))))

[Starshyne]

You all won't believe this. This right here has to go down in the books for the single STUPIDEST thing anyone has done.

First of all I spent the entire day today going around to places getting my named changed back to my madien name on everything. My last stop was the bank so that I could get a new ATM card and checks with my name on them. When I am at the bank, I learn that H never closed the joint savings account. He closed the joint checking account, but didn't do the savings. Here is the stupid part....he deposited the settlement check into the joint savings account!! So I legally could have right then and there today taken all of the money out of that account. Who on earth does such a stupid thing?

Thankfully for him, I didn't take any of the money out. It was tempting for me to take the $50 he owes me from all of the food and bills he has racked up over the past 2 months. But I didn't even do that.

I did call him and told him that he better go sign the papers at the bank to get my name off of the account or I was going to take the close the account and keep the check until he moves out. He said that he thought the lady at the bank just knew that he wanted the savings changed to just his name. Yeah...like the lady at the bank can read minds? Geesh!

Since I had access to his account. I saw that on the day he got the check from the settlement he put $3,000 of it in the the savings. Leaving $500 out. Then on Tuesday he took out another $300 in cash. So in one weeks time he has spent $800 on what???? This really doesn't concern me except....I want hinm to find an apartment and get out of here. If he is spending money this fast how is he going to ge an apartment??