Real Life part 6

[Starshyne]

Once he moves then I will have a feeling of relief. Right now I feel like I am just holding my breath, waiting for him to get out of here.

Today has been sort of strange. One of H's best friends from college called. I had to break the news to him that we are divorced. The last this friend had talked to H, was when things had ended with the OW and he told this friend that he needs to stay with me because I am the one person that has always been there for him. His friend was so shocked over this. He kept saying, but Michael knows better! He went to Bible College with me. He knows better. He started up a ministry for the homeless. He knows better. I am so sorry. I am so sorry. I didn't mean to put the guy in tears (which it sounded like was about to happen). I also learned that all the times H had told me that him and his friends were going to see a movie together were big lies. Not that it matters at this point, but I felt better knowing that those were lies. I gave his friend H's cell phone number. I don't know if H will talk to him. Don't really care at this point.

Packed up pretty much the rest of H's stuff. Went through a lot of paperwork and boxed it up. I found the medical information and read that it was exactly a year ago that H was having headaches. I went with him to get an MRI and I held his hand throughout everything. Everything came back normal, and I had a huge bill that I worked hard to pay. But that memory made me cry. So much for going a week without crying...

Haven't seen or heard from H all day. That feels good. One week from today is the last day he can be here. 7 days!

Sara

[Starshyne]

I spoke too soon. H came in to "do something." Which I believe was to put Just to Men on his hair. I talked to him but I didn't see him. I sat here on my cmoputer while he was in the bathroom. He tells me that he still hasn't found an apartment. I said, "Well you better get to finding one because you only have one week left. Yep...one week from today." He didn't say anything.

Then he noticed that I moved out the dining room table (my Dad took it to his house. I am starting my big redecorating and bought a small kitchen thing on wheels that is really cute). "You moved the table?" He asked. I said..."well I got rid of the table." It was never his table to begin with. Has been my parents since before I was born and then I got it when I moved into my apartment. Was always too big for the room it was in. I tell you....I am going to make this little house look CUTE!

Sara

[lodo]

Hi Sara,

It sounds like you're doing well. I'm glad you're making plans for changing the house around - that will really help.

Keep taking care of yourself! lodo

[karen43]

He tells me that he still hasn't found an apartment. I said, "Well you better get to finding one because you only have one week left. Yep...one week from today." He didn't say anything.

Sara

Sara, what are you going to do if he doesn't move out in a week? Do you have a plan or something? I've always thought he is very confused about the whole thing--I wouldn't be surprised if he doesn't have a place in 1 week don't you think?

Karen

[water2moon]

I'd have to agree with Karen..it really sounds like he wants to cake eat big time..I wouldn't be surprised if the reality of it all just has not sunk in..Praying for you Sara. Stay strong.

[JeffSTL]

Hey Sara, stopping by to say hi

Sara: I am going to make this little house look CUTE!

I'm doing the same thing, checking out yard sales on the weekend to find stuff. I can put my own touch on the house, don't have to ask what W thinks.

Enjoy yourself

M45
W41
M10 3/4 years
D9, D6, D6, S5
OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me
WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08
Date I'll forgive W for A = never

[Starshyne]

Hi everyone. Jeff I found some nice cheap stuff listed on Craigslist. I bought a white headboad and frame for a full sized bed (I refuse to sleep on our marriage bed where we have ML, I am moving that bed out) and a matching desk for the bedroom.


Well I am going to talk to my L tomorrow about what to do if he doesn't move out Wednesday. I should have a copy of the contract he signed that declared he had 15 days to move out and would have to be out by July 16. And if he tries to come into the house on the 17th or later, I will call the police and show them the paper and they will tell him he has to leave or arrest him. At least I sure hope that is how it works.

I know that the fact that we are divorced hasn't sunk in at all for him. The fact that he now has 6 days to leave isn't reality to him at all. He has been a big cake eater this whole time, so why quit now?

I just got off the phone with one of my best friends. She lives in Boston, sadly. She had some choice words about my H and then he started tellilng me stories that made me laugh. She can always make me laugh. It is wonderful to have friends like that. I just wish my friends lived here in St. Louis and not around the country.

[JeffSTL]

Hey Sara,

Sara: I just wish my friends lived here in St. Louis and not around the country

I know how you feel, most of my friends and I have grown apart, we all have families and are being pulled in different directions. We try to see each other at least several times a year, but its not like a it use to be. Would be nice to have someone close that didn't have a lot of commitments, someone just to hang out with.

I bought my queen bed frame and headboard off of craigs list, W took our bed so no problem I didn't want that bed anyway just like you were saying. I don't see how W can sleep in it, I couldn't

M45
W41
M10 3/4 years
D9, D6, D6, S5
OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me
WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08
Date I'll forgive W for A = never

[Starshyne]

So I signed up for facebook. how do I find you all?

[lodo]

Hi Sara,

Here is one possibility or you can search by names - sometimes people use their nicknames.

lodo