The other day when she called for a ride after being out late, she said sorry so many times I finally had to tell her to stop, and the next day asked again if I was mad about her waking me up.
This is my reply on his thread;
Originally Posted By: smartcookie
okay, this tells me that she has put your feelings before hers, possibly for your entire relationship. That's where some of the resentment & exhaustion comes from.
Tell her that if you are mad, you will say so. Ask her to take things at face value. Tell her that she doesn't need to worry about your feelings. Ask her also, to tell you if she is in distress about anything at all. No matter how small.
Now, when she talks to you about ANYTHING, weather, politics, sports, love, the neighbors....
you look her in the eye, smile, nod, & THINK TO YOURSELF "man do I love her". Then, when she's done.......thank her for talking to you. If she'll let you, take her hand, stare into her eyes & say "thank you, W, for talking to me & explaining things to me, I really appreciate it".
Homework assignment #1. lol Good luck.
While I was sitting thinking about this reply, I realized that this same suggestion might help several of the guys that have the W still in the same house, so I copied it here too.
Ready2change....you popped into my head right away.
hope it helps.
_________________________ M: 43 H: 45 4 kids
My Story Truce
And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom. Anais Nin
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
