Since she did bring this up to you, even though it took liquid courage to do so, she must want to talk about it.
I think it is possible that she told me b/c she knows me and expects me to talk her into ending the affair.
I did ask her if she wanted to do the breast cancer walk with me. She said no yesterday. I think she was very nervous talking to me. I acted "as if" we never talked about the affair. And I validated some of the frustrations she is facing in her life. She is a perfectionist and feels like she is slipping. She called me today and said she wanted to do the walk with me.
It will do her good to train for the walk and get away for a couple of days with a not so wild friend - instead of going off to see the 22 year old.
I guess that is friendship - isn't it - being there through the good and the bad. She has been feeling lost lately. We'll see.
Soup, SD and you - all of you usually promote the compassionate approach. Maybe she just needs someone she can talk to - she feels very alone right now.
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Funny that when I think back to my X, in the beginning he wasn't consistent. Now I know that is because he was fighting who he was. Time brought his core beliefs forward.
Your X must have been The X's clone! The X admitted to changing himself to get my attention and impress - but those types of changes rarely stick. That is part of the reason why I am so into that time thingy.
Thanks for your posts today A_O. It helped things settle a little more in my brain. The interactions with M GF will be one step at a time and I will adapt based on feedback.
The X admitted to changing himself to get my attention and impress - but those types of changes rarely stick. That is part of the reason why I am so into that time thingy.
