What techniques are you using? Removing the negative? Getting a life (GAL)?
It's a little tough at first as you do what is good for YOU, finding the person who's been lost, and doing what it takes to make the home a sanctuary.. where it's safe and calm to be.
It's not all about you sacrificing for him. It's about healing what is hurt within you by making positive changes; no blaming.. no guilt! When spouse dropped the bomb it was a wake up call for me. All the guilt I'd carried for years vanished.. it wasn't worth the energy when there was so much work I had to do.
Keep moving forward.. love who you are. The rest will follow.
