Oftentimes divorce lawyers want to make their money, so they tend to encourage distrust and negativity. I have heard plenty of stories, and I also saw this with my own lawyer. From what I've heard and read, divorce lawyers usually do what they can to keep the ball rolling. Expect it. Unfortunately, your H probably doesn't realize how he's being encouraged, and even possibly manipulated, to go through with this.
I never did let my H or L know that I didn't "want the D." The only thing I'd say was that I'd "prefer having my family together, but I'll be fine either way." And the dragging out. Well, I just acted too dumb or too busy to get things completed in a timely manner.
Sorry about your D Kat. Hang in there...
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
