thanks smartcookie, that helps me. The other night she sobbed uncontrollably in my arms for almost 2 hours, and i spent the entire time working on my DBing, listening and validating. anything she threw at me i accepted and acknowledged. patience patience patience.
That is so awesome that you could give her that "love gift". Nice job. You must have remembered your raincoat.
That is really healing for her too.
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
