M, Many of them don't have the strength/courage to walk out the door, therefore, they do push our buttons to the point of putting them out. They want to be able to say "wife put me out". They want to look like they did nothing wrong and justify their behavior by saying this. Typical mlc comments/behavior.
I can tell you this, whatever type of person your h was pre-mlc, you can bet he's going to be the total opposite (mirror image) now. Some are worse than others and it's because of their childhood issues. They really are a piece of work, aren't they?
Hang in there and keep the focus on you and your children.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
