M, Many of them don't have the strength/courage to walk out the door, therefore, they do push our buttons to the point of putting them out. They want to be able to say "wife put me out". They want to look like they did nothing wrong and justify their behavior by saying this. Typical mlc comments/behavior.
I can tell you this, whatever type of person your h was pre-mlc, you can bet he's going to be the total opposite (mirror image) now. Some are worse than others and it's because of their childhood issues. They really are a piece of work, aren't they?
Hang in there and keep the focus on you and your children.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
M I think my H would have been ok if I kicked him out..he was doing everything possible to let me know he was done like staying out every night until 2,3 ,4 or 5 am? Finally he left on his own --he just put some clothes in a white plastic bag and said he was staying at friends house. My H still pysically resembles his ols self..he still dresses the same, hes gained weight, he has dyes his hair(to get gray out 2-3 x) mentally he seems scary too..like a lost child, secretive and very confused..he cant seem to take care of his business I thought this yesterday when I saw him as he looked terrible Is he going to make it? hang in there you seem like you have done a good job taking care of yourself and kids during the crisies peace
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