Again on advice from the archives, I've picked up DR again and have found a bunch of stuff I wish I had read sooner.
I sent the email - the last few days have just been anti-DBing in action around here. Haven't heard anything back.
However, I'm going to go out soon and be gone when my H comes home and for some time after - nothing thrilling, errands and picking up my D, but not being here when he expects me to be here always catches his attention.