My new thread - The lost world!

[Neilh23]

Here's the thing that some people are forgetting when talking about the OP in an affair. Something YOU did caused your S to look elsewhere. They really aren't the issue, unless you make it an issue. Look at what smartcookie has said.... anytime her H brought up her OM, she only wanted OM more nad more. Anytime her H worked on himself, she drew away from OM.

So what should our focus be?

Just by 2 cents.