My new thread - The lost world!

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PD,

I know I'm angry and that's why I really want to wait before I make any decisions. I am very lost right now.

Don't know if you remember the early part of my sitch but MIL has lived with us since early 07 and financially we started to depend on her. Then when this biz first started I was going to move until I found out about OM. Then I booted W. But to afford this place I need MIL (lease is over in Jan). MIL then used most of her extra funds to help W get her apartment (the moron pays only $200 less than we do for a 1 bdr). So financially I need MIL to keep the place Abby has lived in for her whole life.

But I'm starting to feel like if I cut a few things out I can afford this place myself, but then MIL has nowhere to go and she's the only person who's helped us through our whole relationship. Its not that I mind her there (helps with Abby, cleans, etc) but seeing her interaction with W is starting to wear on me. Its a standard mother-daughter R but she's probably the worst person in history with boundaries. My C has even said this. She sets none....even small ones. In fact in 07, she was giving money to W to help with bills and I put a stop to that when I found out because she was basically funding W's three nights out a week.

I have done the lawyer thing a while ago, Cali is a no fault state so I didn't pursue much. But honestly, if I did call her up she wouldn't talk much...she never does. Its always "if that's what you want to do". At the end of May I told her to file for an S or D and she said okay. Of course nothing. She does nothing. I think she's enjoying her single life and wants me to hang in the background until its done. For two months I thought I'd try this and see where I was, but I'm having more and more trouble. I've got no goals, and GALing is actually getting me into trouble.

You are right, PD. I need to drop the anger. Guess I'm just venting because I'm running out of live bodies to vent to. Luckily I have a session today so that may help me through the week.

Then let's set goals. Living to vent isn't a large life ... right.

What do you want?