Sorry you had to learn about the affair. I'm even more sorry that their actually was one. Of course, she doesn't see it that way.
It doesn't matter if your wife heard the vows. She'd see it entirely different from you...she'd probably be like, "don't do it."
My question: Why are you paying spouse support and for how long will you be doing that? Can't she get a job? I didn't read your whole story, I'm sorry, so if this was ordered by the court I understand. I just hope it isn't out of some obligation you feel towards her.
Hiya
You're quite right it IS court ordered
Here in South Africa, we have a small thing called a RULE 43 Application - it's "normally" to provide interrim maintenance / support for the wife BUT in our case, my wife used this "loophole" (if I can call it that ) to FORCE me into divorcing her...
Her logic was / IS = that I would rather grant her a divorce than actually end up paying her money every month; i.e: money is more important to me that the sanctity of our marriage vows
My wife earns a good enough salary to take care of herself and her "monetary claims" were mostly bogus and inflated -> you'll have to look back in my thread/s to where that all happened (unless I can dig them up for you :))
Thanks for popping by though
Best wishes & blessings CM
EDITED - sorry, forgot to mention that the court ordered maintenance is ONLY until / IF the "D" goes though
the "D" goes though 
