Welcome over , I had been thinking of moving across to MLC as it seems to fit the situation ,where an S is still involved or trying to be involved in your life. Interesting that your H seems to be in a similar place to my W . They want to have this new life but cant seem to quite let go of the old one and still want some control and influence over what they have left behind. You are now resisting that control and his bullying ( the "offer" ) , you are taking control of your life and that is so important right now. It will be a bit bumpy for a while but very important if you and H do get to building a fresh R.
And Gypsy makes a very important point.
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What do you want, Ms. Sun. Forget what the spouse is doing, the offer. What do you want, deep in your heart? No need to post it.. but think.
The answer may not be that clear , nor may it be what you think it should be.
