Originally Posted By: one_light
Hi Jeff,

Your positive outlook is heartening. Gives me some semblance of hope at least. I tend to steel myself up to your thinking only to fall on my head at some point. It is an up and down cycle which is probably all too familiar on this board. My D became final on Monday. My anniversary is on the 17th. I am newly divorced or newly single or whatever gentle euphemism you want to put on it. My W is gone. A man who has lost everything is a man with options I guess. I hope you keep posting positive here. It helps.


one_light,

I understand the pain you are feeling all too well..... I thought I loved my exW more than words could express.... I actually loved the woman I thought she was more than words could express....

I, too thought I lost it all.... I did NOT...

I lost a woman who placed NO value on our R of 15 years....
I lost a woman who placed NO value on our M of 12 years....
I lost a woman who placed NO value on me helping her get her BS...
I lost a woman who chose not to share her feelings with me...
I lost a woman who chose not to share she was unhappy...
I lost a woman who refused to put any work into our M...
I lost a woman who refused to go to MC...
I lost a woman who cheated on me....
I lost a woman who violated her M vows....
I lost a woman who lied about me to justify her actions....
I lost a woman who had no character.....
I lost a woman who had no clue as to what M was about...

I LOST NOTHING OF VALUE.........

I gained myself.... AND later a wonderful new wife! You will find the light at the end of the tunnel... It is NOT an oncoming train! It will get better...

Take Care,

NMD


"Chains do not hold a marriage together. It is threads, hundreds of tiny threads which sew people together through the years. That is what makes a marriage last --more than passion or even sex!" - Simone Signoret