Apparently WW has not changed her plans (D) but wants to "cool it" over the summer. What the hell does that mean? Wants to go on summer holidays and then bolt?
Thoughts?
LIS
M45 WW 43 D17/S14/D11
ILYB Jan 08 PA Conf Feb 08 OMW / OM contacted S Jan / 09
No one ever has, or ever will, escape the consequences of their actions.
It is entirely script for a wayward spouse to harumph about, talking freely about divorce, and then never follow thru on any of it. I, myself, shocked my wife when I was the one who actually filed, after SHE had threatened it four or five times.
She could be confused, or she could be scared, or she could merely be intending to cake-eat.
Interesting. Just talked to source of above. Apparently WW still really ticked about me contacting OMW. Still cannot believe I would do that.
WOW. Cannot believe the stupidity of this. I may feel the need to comment to her something like
"You know, you asked me to let you know what my plans are. Just to let you know they have not changed from the last time we talked about this (not leaving, want to keep family in tact, etc). While I ask you to do the same, you are free to make your own decisions, but that is my plan."
Am sure she feels like the ball is in my court on that - meybe time to change sides again.
I am still in absolute disbelief that, if her plan is still D, she would want to spend 14 days with me in a hotel room (albeit with D10, but still) on a holiday and then 3 more on a houseboat. WTF ARE THEY THINKING????
LIS
M45 WW 43 D17/S14/D11
ILYB Jan 08 PA Conf Feb 08 OMW / OM contacted S Jan / 09
No one ever has, or ever will, escape the consequences of their actions.
Isn't it odd how we BS's can feel so positive, like we know what is going on one minute and then scratch our heads saying WTF the next? After my above posts from today, I am really questioning how much more I am willing to take of this cr@p.
Yet I get home and my 3 K's who have no idea of the severity of the sitch make all the bs worthwhile.
I didn't (nor did any of us) sign up for this!
Sorry - just feeling low and dispaired and needed to vent.
LIS
M45 WW 43 D17/S14/D11
ILYB Jan 08 PA Conf Feb 08 OMW / OM contacted S Jan / 09
No one ever has, or ever will, escape the consequences of their actions.
Interesting. Just talked to source of above. Apparently WW still really ticked about me contacting OMW. Still cannot believe I would do that.
WOW. Cannot believe the stupidity of this. I may feel the need to comment to her something like
"You know, you asked me to let you know what my plans are. Just to let you know they have not changed from the last time we talked about this (not leaving, want to keep family in tact, etc). While I ask you to do the same, you are free to make your own decisions, but that is my plan."
Am sure she feels like the ball is in my court on that - meybe time to change sides again.
I am still in absolute disbelief that, if her plan is still D, she would want to spend 14 days with me in a hotel room (albeit with D10, but still) on a holiday and then 3 more on a houseboat. WTF ARE THEY THINKING????
Lost,
That is the PERFECT answer. Just WAIT until she asks you for it though -- don't offer it.